“Your contract was terminated”:Confessions of an employee who didn’t see it coming

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Embarrassed. Angry. Worried. Anxious. These were some of the emotions I was feeling when I initially found out that I was unjustly fired.

I never thought it would happen to me. I thought these things only happened to people who were unprofessional or lazy. Sometimes as a Christian, we have to go through unfair experiences to make a us stronger and I believe that was the purpose of my experience with this company.

It all started the day after Thanksgiving. My temporary job agency told me the place and time I was supposed to show up for my new position. It seemed to meet most of my job criteria that I created for my ideal job that I wanted.

The only bad thing about it was I had to get up at 4 in the morning to get there on time. The job hours were 8am-5pm, but the commute to and from work was longer than I would have liked and the winter weather made it worse.

I showed up at the time they told me to and everybody in my department seemed nice. It was a job field I didn’t have any experience in and the supervisor said they would train me on what I needed to know, so I accepted the job.

My department was in their busy season and put me to work immediately. Little did I know, my supervisor expected me to basically catch on to the responsibilities of the job in an unrealistic amount of time in order to help lighten to workload of the department. They also expected me to type an unrealistic amount of words a minute.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m aware that most companies have deadlines to meet in some form or another but this job’s deadlines were ridiculous, especially for a new person.

I was happy to be making the hourly wage they gave me but I was still uneasy about the exhausting commute and the harsh expectations they put on me.

The work environment quickly turned from seemingly nice and welcoming to pressure to get the work done or else.

I was too scared to find out what would happen if I failed to meet the deadline, so I put a lot of pressure on myself to keep this job by doing whatever it took so I could keep that good amount of money coming in.

I was at a crossroad and didn’t know what to do about it, so I continued to work there, hoping something would change for the better. I even started to pray that the situation would somehow improve.

Then, I suddenly received an unexpected call from my temporary agency that would throw me for a loop.

To be continued…..

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2017: The Year That Challenged My Faith

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As I look back on 2017, I can’t help but to think of all the challenges I’ve been through. Last year was one of the most difficult years I’ve been through in a while. However, I would also say the one word I would use to sum up last year would be growth.

I say that because there were many changes that happened that forced me to grow and it was painful but I learned a lot too.

I lost my job which made my mom the only one bringing in income: Losing a job is always tough, but I must say God made a way to have all of our bills paid and we never lost our food or our house. For that, I will always be thankful.

However, we were forced to make some changes such as making a tight budget. I like to say there was more month than money coming in so we prayed that the groceries never went over our budget when we went grocery shopping. Going over by even a couple of dollars would have been a problem.

When you have to buy generic brands instead of name brands when you’re used to buying the ladder is a big adjustment. May not seem like an adjustment to some, but it was to me.

We learned how to separate wants from needs which ultimately led me to start couponing while I had all this free time to help cut costs as well. We weren’t even able to buy extra snacks at the grocery store which was also a big deal to us.

However, this experience made me focus on cooking big meals that could stretch for a couple days so we wouldn’t have to buy as many groceries. As a Christian, I have learned when life give you lemons, you make lemonade. I made the most of my tough situation by becoming very creative.

I had to witness someone close to me going through financial problems. None of us like to see our loved ones go through difficult times, especially in the area of finances. There were many times I witnessed my loved one struggle between paying bills and tithing.

Sometimes times got so hard, all we could do is call on the name of Jesus, cry, and take walks to try and clear our minds. Many times, I had to shop for groceries and pray that I didn’t go over my budget. It was so tight that even going over the budget by a dollar would hurt.

As a part of this transition from having more than enough to barely making it, I had to go without a lot of things I was used to having. Through the grace of God, my mom and I were able to make the adjustment but it was not easy.

I’m used to taking a vacation each summer to my favorite amusement park and staying in a nearby hotel for a couple of days. Due to my circumstances of unemployment, I was forced to cancel that all together and didn’t get to have or go to any barbeques that summer.

Many times I struggled to get out of bed because of the pressure of finding a job. When you have been unemployed long term, oftentimes you find yourself looking for any job just to make money even if it’s not something you like. Never did I think I would be unemployed this long or for the fourth time in this tough economy we live in.

Another tough decision my mom and I made last year was deciding to switch churches. I struggled with this decision for a while. I was a member of this church for years and became close with a lot of members.

However, there are times when God is pushing you out of your comfort zone and puts the urge in you to make a change. I felt that urge and it lead my mom and I to change churches.

It got to the point where I was no longer looking forward to going there every Sunday and the things that used to make me happy there suddenly got on my nerves and getting through a service on Sunday seemed unbearable. If you want to read more about my journey regarding this difficult decision to switch churches and how it affected me, click here.

I say all that to say this: God has a way of putting Christians through trials and tribulations to make us stronger. Even though it was overwhelming, I learned to lean on and pray to God like never before. Trials have a way of making you run to God and often just to get through the day.

I actually grew in the area of learning scriptures during this trial. It’s during the tough times that you will get discouraged and not always feel like confessing scriptures or praying or reading the bible. I’ve learned when I feel tempted to be discouraged, I have to let myself have my moment of feeling down before I can move forward.

I’m not saying you should lay around and be depressed and be unproductive long term but at the same time, it is important to be aware of your feelings and admit when you’re down. It’s ok to not be ok sometimes as long as you don’t stay in that place forever.

Sunshine Blogger Award Nomination

I’m a new blogger, so I don’t have a lot of published content yet. Thanks to Jennifer Osuji aka Verskil from Fonzell, I’ve been nominated for the Sunshine Blogger Award. I’m glad that my work is being exposed and that it inspires people. For those of you who are wondering what the Sunshine Bloggers Award is, this is how it works:

The Sunshine Blogger Award is simply an award to bring the blogging community together and create relationships. It is basically a nomination given to bloggers by bloggers. Getting a nomination from a blogger means they find you inspiring and you bring light to their lives and the lives of your readers. There are a few simple rules to follow when nominated.

Rules for the Award:

  • You simply need to thank the blogger who nominated you and link back to their blog
  • Answer the eleven questions the blogger has asked you
  • Thereafter, you need to nominate 11 bloggers to receive this award and create 11 new questions you would like them to answer
  • Notify the bloggers via social media or blog comment
  • List the rules and display the Sunshine Blogger Award logo in your post and/or on your site

These are the eleven questions from Jennifer Osuji

1. Where do you see yourself in the next five years?

I see myself growing my audience for my blog and inspiring as many people as possible. I hope to do some guest blogging for other bloggers as well.

2. What are your aspirations in life?

I hope to be a source of hope for those who have or are currently going through obstacles. It would be great if I could turn blogging into my career.

3. If you had to choose between family, money and career, what would be your pick and why?

I would say money because I want to travel and stay in fancy hotel suites.

4. If you could become any animal, what would it be and why?

I would be a cat because they’re independent for the most part and like to stay to themselves. That pretty much describes my personality.

5. What are the top three things on your bucket list you would love to achieve before you leave this earth?

Travel to Hawaii, own a luxury car, overcome my fear of flying on planes.

6. What is the one favorite blog post you have written so far?

My blog called “7 Things I Learned on my Journey to Success” is my favorite because I believe it has inspired people to keep going when they feel like giving up. It shows them that we have similar experiences so they don’t have to feel like they’re alone.

7. What is your greatest pet peeve?

People chewing loudly- irritates me to no end.

8. If you could pick only one item to survive on for the rest of your life, what would it be?

My phone- it keeps me entertained.

9. If one word could describe your entire life, what would it be?

Unpredictable.

10. What is the only thing you wish you had done differently in the past?

Not worry about things I couldn’t control.

11. If you could pitch an idea to grow the blogging community, what would it be?

Probably to encourage bloggers to do more guest posts to gain more exposure.

Here are my nominees:

#PANIC

Pupil of Love

Empowering and Uplifting

simple Ula

Verskil

adventures of super 8 

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Real Food to Heal

Jijjy’s Maison

Step up in Life

Simply Kymtastic

Here are my questions for my nominees:

  1. What gave you the idea to start a blog?
  2. What five things would you out on your bucket list?
  3. What are your long term goals?
  4. How do you handle stress?
  5. If you could have any career in life and not have to worry about money, would would you choose?
  6. What is your favorite animal and why?
  7. If you were trapped on an island and could only bring two things, what would they be?
  8. Where is your ideal vacation spot?
  9. What do you do for fun?
  10. Would you say you’re more of a night owl or morning person?
  11. Do you like nature/being outside or do you like indoor activities?

 

Frustration in the Church: Make a move or stay put?

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We’ve all been there. Going from one church to another hoping this church is the perfect fit. Then you settle into a church and something goes wrong (within reason).

Maybe you lost that fire you used to feel at your current church and now you’re back to searching for the right church. As frustrating as that process can be, there’s some things you should keep in mind when looking for the right church.

1.It feeds you spiritually. Just as we need to eat regular food daily, we as Christians need to read the bible on a regular basis and make sure we’re being taught the truth about God’s word. Don’t take out or add anything to God’s word (See Deuteronomy 4:1-2).

2.It fits your personality. If you’re an introvert, you might prefer a smaller church that is more family oriented and smaller in size. If you’re outgoing and like to be involved in multiple events or projects, you might prefer a bigger church where you can meet new people on a regular basis.

3.They make you feel like family. Ideally, a family is supposed to make you feel welcome and encourage you when the world tries to tear you down. If you have a problem, you should feel comfortable enough to be open about it without telling them every detail about your life.

If you are surrounded by paparazzi instead of church members or that you aren’t getting support at your church, you might want to consider looking for another church home.

4.The pastor makes you feel comfortable. The majority of the church should come across as welcoming and understanding but the pastor should be the main person you feel a close connection to.

Since the pastor runs the church and ultimately will be the one that interprets God’s word, he or she should have bible based advice. Very few things should be off topic when asking for advice and you should leave his office feeling relief not feeling like you have an extra burden.

There’s no such thing as the perfect church but there are boundaries and criteria that need to be set on your journey to find the right church that suits your personality. When you go to church, you should feel great anticipation to be encouraged to get through the following week.

You should also be free to fellowship with other like-minded Christians who build each other up. Overall, the good qualities of a church should always outweigh the bad.

There will always be problems in church to deal with, but it becomes easier to deal with when your church builds you up.

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7 Things I Learned on my Journey to Success

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Homework. No sleep. Relationships. Work. Homesickness. Church. These are some of the things I juggled when I was in college. Needless to say, there were times that I felt I couldn’t balance it all.

At times, I got so overwhelmed by the work I had to do in college that I felt it would never end and that life wasn’t worth living anymore. At least that was what popped in my mind when I started having suicidal thoughts.

Christians aren’t supposed to have this kind of experience, are they? That’s what I thought at first.

I learned very quickly that being a Christian does not mean there won’t problems to face. I’m proud to say that was four years ago. Since then, I still get overwhelmed and hopeless at times, but I know how to handle it better now. Here are some of the things I learned along the journey to healing.

1. It doesn’t come fast or easily.
Some people may not think that getting a degree would cause a person to have to go through so much pain, but it did for me. Looking back, that experience caused me to appreciate my degree so much more now because it didn’t come easily. You tend to appreciate things more when you put in the work to get it.

2. It’s normal to be tempted to give up.
There were many times I woke up and wanted to go back to bed and hide from the world or come up with excuses to skip work and going to my classes because I was afraid of what each day would bring.

At that point, I couldn’t see any sunshine or light at the end of the tunnel. It felt like a big dark cloud was following me. As I watched more sermons, I realized that Christians do get discouraged and sometimes even fall into despair like I was. I was glad to know I wasn’t alone in the struggle and God also promised that He was with me always.

3. You have to want it for yourself.
When I thought I was losing my mind, I knew deep down that giving up wasn’t an option. I also knew that my I had to do my part if I wanted God to come through for me. I had to confess God’s word, listen to sermons and gospel music. Nobody can save you or make you become a better or stronger person.

4. Ask for help.
There is no shame in asking for help. For some people, that might mean talking to a therapist or a close friend or pastor. For me, talking to my supportive mom and seeking God’s help comforted me and caused me to keep going. It’s during our weakest points that we need somebody to speak encouragement in our spirit.

5. Press through the pain.
This is never easy to do but always necessary. In my weakness, I literally had to lean on God when my own faith was low. I chose to look at the struggle as a rehab in a sense.

When somebody is in rehab, regardless of the particular disorder or drug problem, they operate the same. The ultimate goal is to face the problem head on and take it day by day or moment by moment. When you look at each day as 24 hours and make up in your mind that you will survive that first four hours then the other 5 hours and then the next 5 hours and so on, it becomes less overwhelming.

Be determined to learn your lesson and keep going no matter how long the process of growth takes.

6. Accept that everyday won’t be good.
Allow yourself to feel the bad emotions as well as the good within reason. It’s ok to have your moment of doubt just as long as you don’t let it get to the point where you act on it or dwell on it.

When you go through a trial or trials, some days will be better than other. Even drug addicts have to go through withdraws before they get to their healing.

There were days where I was filled with so much anxiety and disturbing thoughts that I couldn’t sleep or would be curled up in a ball not knowing up from down. Then there were days where I felt like things were looking up.

7. Anytime you work towards a goal, especially if it’s something big, expect setbacks and temptations to come along to discourage you.
In my case, the devil thought he had me bound to my thoughts. Though that experience, I learned to develop a closer relationship with God and trust Him like never before. I started confessing his word and saying affirmations like “Suicide is not an option” and “I am enough”. I had to do it repeatedly.

I say that to say this: just because you have a painful experience doesn’t mean God can’t be in the midst of it. God specializes in turning what looked impossible into something beautiful.

I must say that my experience helped me to have a closer relationship with God while strengthening me at the same time. I’ve heard it said before by one of my church members that college will bring you closer to God. I had to laugh when he said that because I’m a living witness to it.

All the times I thought I couldn’t do something significant because it looked too hard or thought I didn’t have what it took to make it through, God has always showed me that through Him, anything is possible.